“WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN YOU SAY “I WILL”

On the 28th of May 2014 Bunnie and I will celebrate our 23rd year of marriage. Most of you are probably thinking “Oh”, here comes another sappy mushy love story, not at all. What I am about to reveal about our relationship is from the heart, so you can understand my side of the story and why I love my wife as deeply as I do and why I would never abandon her or the vow I spoke to her when we became one.

As I sat in the surgeons office lstening to him tell Bunnie she needed an operation or she was going to die, I then realized what I had commited to, when I said “I Will”. It became clear to me that a part of me was in jeapordy and might be facing death. So when I heard Bunnie ask the Surgeon to explain the odds to her about whether this operation was going to be successful or not and after his explanation hearing Bunnie emphatically saying there was not going to be an operation. That she could live with her mistake, if there was going to be one, however could not live with the surgeons mistake if it occurred. I completely understood what “I Will” meant to me right at that moment. Which I further understood when the surgeon turned to me and ordered me to take control of my wife and order her to have this operation. Again I was brought to the understanding that a part of me was in Jeapordy and might possibly die and the question came to me what was I prepared to do. I heard myself telling the surgeon that Bunnie’s body was hers and that what ever she decided to do I would stand behind and support her 100% no matter what her decision was. But I had no say in this and the choice was her’s and he knew her position. You bet we have had some ups and downs in the last 15-16 years, but one thing I believe, neither one of us lost sight of “What, I will” really meant to us. Now here it might get a bit sappy and mushy because I am still very much in love with Bunnie and will do whatever it takes to make sure she is properly cared for.

Shortly after Bunnie was in a wheel chair (1997) I was confronted by a stranger who asked me “Why do I stay with Bunnie in her present condition”? This is when I truly realized what “I Will” meant to me, that no matter what, I was going to be there for Bunnie, because as it is said two become one, here was living proof that I was as much a part of her life and the dilemmas in it as she was as much a part of my life and the dilemmas in it. The way I see it Bunnie is the best part of who I have become and will end up to be. Sweet Heart I love you and will till my last breath and I promised to care for you and I will do everything I can to keep that promise because you see all I really am doing is looking after that which is a part of me. So when you Stand By Me as I Stand By you, we complete the saying when two become one which is the strongest bond there can be, and can never be defeated or truly broken if honored as it was meant to be. Love ya Babe.

Robert